Death on duty: dealing with the loss of loved ones

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Death on duty: dealing with the loss of loved ones
11th November 2014

Margaret Evison's son Mark was leading a patrol as a platoon commander in Helmand Province when the platoon came under fire.  In the battle, he was shot.

He was flown back to England in May 2009 but after two days in hospital, his life support machines were turned off. He was 26. 

Margaret describes the pain she felt when she heard the news and talks about what Remembrance Sunday means to her. She describes the appreciation the country shows as “touching” and says it means an awful lot to her, though she recognises mourning is extremely personal. 

James Banks, a former Captain in the Royal Artillery, describes the times he had to tell fellow soldiers of the loss of a fellow comrade, and the moments, harder still, when he faced families to break the news they had lost a son. 

Margaret later went to Afghanistan in an attempt to give Mark’s life a clearer context. She has since gone on to set up a fund in Mark’s name and has wrote a book about her experience, 'Death of a Soldier: A Mother's Story’. She wrote the book as a way to better understand what happened and to help her in her grief.

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